I am trying a bit of an experiment for the next few entries. Since Ubuntu is such an integral part of my life, I am going to write about various concepts related to Ubuntu, at least, in my understanding of it, and how it has come to my life, and hopefully, helping others to recognize it within themselves and others. The first that I am thinking of is the spirit of lessons, lessons learned and left to learn.
I once had a person in my life tell me (actually, a person who has been a friend to me in the past, but walked away from that relationship when she didn’t like who I was befriending), well she told me once when I was commenting about emotional/psychic steps forward that I had made in my life, that it really does us no good to look back on what we have already done, that we need to stay in today and focus on what is ahead. Huh?
I mean, I have been involved in the 12 step concepts to one degree or another almost my entire adult life. So, I get it about the staying in the moment, today is our focus, one day at a time, the past is in the past. And, it all makes sense to me. However, I also firmly believe that the lessons of the past, the painful and powerful ones, all are part of who we are today, in this moment. Therefore, to look back, to either reflect on what we have learned from bad experiences, or to give ourselves credit for how far we have come, I think is a good thing, a healthy behavior to have. I am because you are; what I have learned I can pass onto you, and you can use what is helpful and leave the rest. I am who I am in my today, because of who you are and who you have been to me. How many of us have had the experience of building or creating something, and then standing back, and admiring the end result? I think that this is less about pride and vanity, and more about a feeling of satisfaction that a task has been completed, and an accomplishment is being acknowledged. Lessons learned benefit us in many ways, but I believe part of their value is when we are able to see how we came to learn those lessons, what information came our way, and how we integrate those lessons into our lives and everyday choices and behaviors.
What lessons have you learned along the way, and what steps of progress do you see in yourself? Instead of denigrating yourself for all of your shortfalls, take the time today to jot down what you have accomplished, not in terms of your occupation, or your wealth or status. What have you accomplished in terms of exploring your heart and your soul, in terms of answering to what your true calling is? What lessons of Ubuntu have you already put into practice in your life?