This is a love story. My love story. And one of the most appropriate examples of Ubuntu in my life.
I am in love with the love of my life. This is our story.
We knew each other for years before. We had crossed paths a few times, out at bars, with mutual friends. We were friendly enough to one another. Then, one evening, after the breakup months before of my previous relationship, my ex asked me to go out dancing. I was in cleaning clothes. I had been just hanging out all day. I didn’t feel like going home to change. I didn’t want to go. But, with enough asking, I went. Just to get out.
We went out to a place we frequented quite a bit. Jamie was there. She was interested in someone else at the time, but we talked over the course of the evening, and had some shots of tequila together….. it was fun. Then, we went our separate ways.
The following weekend, we talked about making plans again. I wanted to go, but asked, “Is Jamie going?” And, when she was, I decided to go. I got dressed up that night. Wanted to look my best. We talked a lot that night also, about what we were looking for in relationships, what it would take to meet the right person, all of the things it seemed that had to be sacrificed to have true love come your way.
We went our separate ways again.
Then, she asked a mutual friend for my telephone number. My friend asked me on a night when I felt down, rejected, and alone. Wondering what was to become of my life in terms of love, relationships and commitment. I said yes. She called the next night. And the next night, I called her. We would be on the telephone for hours. And I mean, HOURS. Three or four hours at a time. Talking about life. Love. Family. Roots. Career. Expectations. Children. EVERYTHING. The connections that we found were uncanny, karmic, destiny. That is when we found out how closely we had grown up from one another, IN ANOTHER STATE. We made a date.
The date was so wonderful. A meal together at my home. Out to see a music group. Tequila. Beers. Laughter. And connection that was strong and true. More deep, full conversation. And then, a lot of hand holding, and deeper connection.
I think that we didn’t spend a day apart after that night. We separated long enough to get some sleep, care for our pets, and then spend time together once more. Our connection was so deep, so intense, that we felt like we had been together for one hundred lifetimes, destined to be together for the rest of our lives.
And here we are, almost thirteen years later, and we are standing strong. We have been through so much together, trials and joys, sorrows and fun and blissful times. But we have done it together. Our bond today is stronger than it has ever been. With all that life will bring us over the next years of our lives, we will get through it together.
Our love song is “Wonderwall”.
So, the title.
Ubuntu in all its glory. I am because she is. Period. She is my wife, my life, my soulmate, my forever partner.