As I go further and further along in this work toward a brilliant life, I find that my dreams come to me more easily than ever before. I am able to see the vision of my dreams in action, and for some of them, manifest what it would feel like to have those dreams fulfilled. There are few things as exciting as feeling what it will be like when my dreams are fulfilled.
However, there is a caveat at times, especially when dreaming my relationship dreams. The how: how will we get to this dream state? My fixer/reality checker has to raise its head, and point out, not so diplomatically, that the work of getting to the dream is going to be hard; so, if I am going to be bold enough to dream the dream, what is my plan to get that dream realized? My fixer wants the details of the how, in order to evaluate how feasible my dream is.
This has been at work much of my adult life, and hence, why it has been so difficult for me to design my dream life. I have focused so much on the HOW of things, how we will get from Point A to Point B, that I forget about my excitement for the dream itself. Nothing like keeping a good Fixer character trait around, a Control Freak, to keep me from holding onto the joy for long.
I believe that when I have focused so much on the How of a dream, or a new endeavor, it has been my way of finding out how the dream just isn’t possible. I mean, when I dream now, I am dreaming BIG; a stretch, but within reach. However, if I now focused only on the practical ways that I will make that dream real, I will talk myself out of it at every turn.
I don’t have the energy for that anymore. I am too busy designing beauty and greatness in my life; that means, that I have to use all of my energy within to focus on the dream realized; the goal achieved; all the while assuming that it will happen. It no longer is about the “what ifs” in the dreams, but the “when”. It is no longer a focus on the How I am going to get there, but How SOON. There are few doubts in my mind these days that the dreams are all within my reach.
I guess what it all comes down to, is a true belief that I can and should have all of my dreams, and that, more than ever, I deserve that beauty in my life. What a great feeling!!!!