One of the other Coaches in Training sent me this quote this weekend, in response to an email I sent out to all of the CIT’s about a recent life transition……..
Pain, the Price of Freedom
–by Michael Singer (Sep 06, 2010)
“Wise beings do not want to remain a slave to the fear of pain. They permit the world to be what it is instead of being afraid of it. They wholeheartedly participate in life, but not for the purpose of using life to avoid themselves. If life does something that causes a disturbance inside of you, instead of pulling away, let it pass through you like the wind. After all, things happen every day that causes a disturbance inside of you. At any moment you can feel frustration, anger, fear, jealousy, insecurity or embarrassment. If you watch you will see the heart is trying to push it all away. If you want to be free you have to learn to stop fighting all these human feelings.
When you feel pain, simply view it as energy. Just start seeing these inner experiences as energy passing through your heart and before the eye of your consciousness. Then relax. Do the opposite of contracting and closing. Relax and release. Relax your heart until you are actually face-to-face with the exact place where it hurts. Stay open and receptive so you can be present right where the tension is. You must be willing to be present right at the place of the tightness and pain, and then relax and go even deeper. This is very deep growth and transformation. But you will not want to do this. You will feel tremendous resistance to doing this, and that’s what makes it so powerful. As you relax and feel the resistance, the heart will want to pull away, to close, to protect, and to defend itself. Keep relaxing. Relax your shoulders and relax your heart. Let go and leave room for the pain to pass through you. It’s just energy. Just see it as energy and let it go.
If you close around the pain and stop it from passing through, it will stay in you. That is why our natural tendency to resist is so counterproductive. If you don’t want the pain, why do you close around it and keep it. Do you actually think that if you resist, it will go away? It’s not true. If you release and let the energy pass through. Then it will go away. If you relax when the pain comes up inside your heart, and actually dare to face it, it will pass. Every single time you relax and release, a piece of the pain leaves forever. Yet every time you resist and close, you are building up the pain inside. It’s like damming up a stream. You are then forced to use the psyche to create a layer of distance between you who experiences the pain and the pain itself. That is what all the noise is inside your mind: an attempt to avoid the stored pain.”
— Michael Singer, from ‘The Untethered Soul’
Her choice of giving me these words are perfect for where I am at right now, in regard to so many life areas. I am changing, growing, and evolving as each day goes by. However, one of my biggest challenges is allowing my heart to close up – although I never viewed it that way! – when I am hurt or upset. Shutting down and not letting it pass through, not letting myself FEEL THE FEELINGS. So funny, in the ironic funny sort of way. Here I have been, working so hard at wanting to feel so deeply, and not let things bother me that had nothing to do with me, which in fact, is actually denial of feeling something, and damming up that stream of my heart.
I DON’T want to do that. I want to go as deeply as I possibly can, to deep love, connection, pain, anger, all of it. To go that deeply is to gain the most broad level of understanding that I can imagine. Life itself will change in ways that I cannot even begin to anticipate at this point, if I truly view these moments as energy, going from here to there, needing to pass through, and myself owing them the due respect to feel, acknowledge, and allow that process to happen. It might take time, however, I understand the deep importance of it all now. The achievement of all of my dreams depends upon it.
I am ready.